I watched an interesting video today that made me think about the importance of timing. We always hear people say that they were in the right place at the wrong time, or perhaps they met the right person but the timing was just off…but is that really the truth?
I tend to think that timing isn’t everything. To me, time isn’t really a “thing” when it comes to interpersonal relationships because more often than not, the time will never be right.
There’s never a right time to say goodbye, and there’s never going to be the perfect time to add a relationship into your life or schedule. Everyone is busy, we all have priorities and goals. Life doesn’t end (or begin) on the basis of another persons existence, so why not just love and see what happens?
I find time ends up being an excuse for too many, and a way to either postpone the inevitable or hide from a person or opportunity that scares us. Time is an idea that exists because we make it a priority rather than allow ourselves to live each moment as if there were no boundaries.
I believe, in my own life, that time is of no relevance really because no matter how busy I may be, I will always make the time for the people and things that matter to me. Perhaps I have a busy week at work, but a friend I haven’t heard from in ages wants to get together; if they make the effort, I can too and we will find a time to make that reunion happen. If THEY are not a priority to me then I “won’t have the time” and therefore we can truly see where they fall in the scale of my happiness and my life.
Don’t let someone use time as an excuse to not make you a part or priority of their life. We all have the same amount of hours in the day, but who we choose to spend those hours with really are a strong indicator of the strength of that relationship.
I always see things posted on social media about “oh shoutout to those friends who are true friends even though we never see each other or talk anymore”…fuck that. I get it if you live in another state or perhaps country, but if you live in the same county/city as I do and have enough technology to post dumb shit like that, then I believe you have the means (and time) to video chat, make a phone call or block a couple hours in your schedule to meet up. I have no empathy for lost friendships (or lovers) who can’t find time for me.
I can always find time for my friends or family … can you?