With the recent passing of NBA star Kobe Bryant – it brings to the forefront of many minds that life is short, and not guaranteed. Honestly – I don’t really follow sports, I never watched Kobe play a game and I don’t know anything about him as a basketball player – but I do know that it is heartbreaking and unfathomable to lose a husband/father AND a daughter/sister in the same moment. There were many people on that helicopter – and more families/people affected by the loss of life.
In this moment, and ones like it, we are reminded of our own humanity; perhaps that’s part of why people are so affected around the world – by someone they may have never met. It reminds (me) that so often we underestimate, or don’t realize at all, our impact on others. We may not be a public figure, or “famous”, but the life you live can have a profound influence, and the ripple can reach more than you might expect.
What would you do, if you knew tomorrow was your last? It’s tough to want to face, but the truth is, no amount of money, fame, good deeds or healthy living will save a person. It’s easy to get caught up in the day-to-day life and forget that we should be LIVING, not just existing. Perhaps all we can do is bring awareness to our life, right this moment. Feel the feelings. Breathe in the fresh air. Hug that person. Tell someone you’re thinking of them. Take the plunge and do that thing you’ve been putting off.
An article on the Tiny Buddha blog discusses this idea of “living” vs. “existing” in more depth and has some insightful lessons, brought about by the authors own experiences.
Also – here is a link for the Grief Resource Network. Don’t be afraid to embrace your sadness/grief, anger, frustration or whatever you are feeling AND don’t be afraid to ask for help to move through it.