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The Perils of Perfectionism

Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try again. Fail again. Fail better. – Samuel Beckett

First off – let’s be clear from the start and reinforce that “perfect” doesn’t exist. It’s great to work hard and give your all toward what you do, however you will not be perfect, at least not all the time, maybe not ever.

Second – I can say from experience that the more you try to BE perfect (within your own reality and mind), the more suffering you will experience. The desire to try and meet the levels of “perfection” in one’s mind will be an endless mountain to climb, and filled with self loathing. 

Perfectionism is (often) a mask for those who are trying to save themselves from criticism or seek unrealistic levels of acceptance from people out of fear, loneliness or some other area in life that they feel discouraged, lacking or unable to accept. It comes in many forms, such as fitness, “status” or money, educational pursuits, work place assignments and more. The pressure to be the “idealized” version of so many roles is unattainable and exhausting, and with social media now it is no longer OUR own ideal version we are reaching for – but it’s an amalgamation of grotesque proportions, based on the input of every person with internet access. 

Trying and trying again will always result in a better outcome than only seeing the “perfect” line in the sand and never meeting it. Don’t let perfection stifle your ability to try, and don’t let the ideas of others get morphed into what you THINK you want/need or are becoming. 

By DreamerSD

Life enthusiast

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