If you want to determine the nature of anything, entrust it to time; when the sea is stormy, you can see nothing clearly – Seneca
This quote spoke to me so much that when I saw the Instagram post it was featured on, I had to make it my temporary phone wallpaper. Sidenote – I love using my wallpaper to help me train my thoughts and reinforce ideas, since we spend so much time looking at our phones anyway! … back to Seneca…
I have admitted before, and will say it again, I am impatient and have some issues with temper/frustration. It has taken me a LOT of focus to try and “woosah” myself down sometimes, and my sharp tongue/biting remarks have hurt people in the past, so I am working to improve. At any rate, this quote helped reinforce to me that I still have a long way to go in my journey. I read it and recognized that I do not wait for the “waves to settle” before I jump into the sea of conversation, and usually just make myself MORE angry than if I would have just sat by the side and let it go for a bit.
Intense emotion can be the conduit for big ideas, big passion or other excitement; however, it can also be the very moment we say or do something regrettable. Seneca reminds me (us) that we should want to make clear choices that are based on the facts and a level-headed appraisal of the situation, not one made out of haste and half-truths. Yes, we want to be decisive and not wishy-washy in our choices, but many decisions are made before their expiration date, and that can be equally as detrimental as never having made a choice at all.
I am trying to learn how to pace my reactions better and let the waters settle before I respond. Sometimes that’s mere seconds, sometimes it takes hours, but I can at least now see when I am sort of “in the moment, seeing red” and take that proverbial “step back”.