It would be a privilege to have my heart broken by you. – The Fault in Our Stars, Film
I don’t know why, but the film “The Fault in Our Stars” always gets me right in the feels. This film is based on a book by author John Green, and was originally written/made as a more “YA” (aka Young Adult) genre book & film. This deters me not one bit – as I find it very touching from both the relationship of the film’s two young lovers, but also from the view point of the parents who are facing the untimely demise of their children, the worry that the children have for their friends and family, and the many layers of emotion that come with being young, being a part of a relationship (in any capacity) where one member is knowingly facing their own mortality, and just the freedom of youthful experiences.
As Augustus Waters says in the quote at the start of this post, he acknowledges that he can’t stop his heart from being broken, but he can choose who he entrusts his heart to. Much like Augustus, we too can choose who we entrust ourselves too, not just our hearts, but also our thoughts, desires, hopes and dreams, our values and opinions. We must carefully curate the audience we share with, and remember to give back that same attention and care to others that we so desire.
If we are really thoughtful about who we share our innermost selves with, then likely, even if the relationship dissolves, it will not end in agony. The truth is, relationships will come and go, but in the end, if we are careful in our selection of people with whom we shared our deepest parts, we can look back and know that the person was a part of our life for a reason. They filled a void that we needed, or healed parts of us that we never realized were even hurt. People, relationships, they exist because we all have something to learn and something to teach. We should all hope that those closest to us feel safe and cared for, but also that they know WHY we chose each other to lean into, and be grateful and appreciative for them.