I’ve learned to talk to myself rather than to listen to myself. When I listen to myself, all I hear is fear, doubt, lies, and failure. But when I talk to myself, I can tell myself anything I want to. I can feed myself good thoughts of hope, confidence, truth, and victory. I can tell myself ‘I can do it.’ When I learned to talk to myself rather than listen to myself, I realized that there was nothing I couldn’t do. – Dr. James Gills, 6-time, double Ironman Triathlete
We might hear “self-talk”, “inner critic”, “little you” or a variety of other names – but really it’s all names for the same thing…that voice in our head that is trying to talk us out of our dreams. It might be feeding you thoughts to invalidate your desires, make you feel like an impostor, or planting seeds of doubt to break down your self-esteem and/or relationships.
This little gremlin is tricky – and much like the “wolf in sheep’s clothing”, the gremlin has a voice that sounds just like YOU (or sometimes those close to you)! As Dr. Gills so eloquently put it, you must resist the urge to listen, and rather TALK to yourself. Consciously. THINK about how YOU want your day/week/life to be and TELL yourself how you will live it. Don’t let that gremlin talk you out of things, experiences or meaningful relationships.
Our “self talk” is SO important, and many have been so conditioned to believe it, that it’s no longer even consciously recognized as speaking – it’s just BELIEVED. Don’t just blindly trust your inner voice, question it. Are you hearing things/statements that are coming from a place of realistic review? Do statements conflict with one another? If so – these could be red flags that show the true nature of the voice, and can allow you to shut them down. I am not saying “be careless” or “do whatever you want” – I am simply saying that things must be reviewed for accuracy AND you should be talking TO yourself more than listening to the constant stream of negativity that can flow, if not actively monitored.