Little girls are cute and small only to adults. To one another they are not cute. They are life-sized. – Margaret Atwood
I like the quote above, because it illustrates so well how we see every person and experience based on our own “views” and understanding of life. Just like “little girls” don’t see one another as “cute” or “small” (at least not all the time), we shouldn’t let people box us into roles, because they are not yet able to see us as we are.
This can become apparent in many ways. Sometimes it is in the form of being viewed as “weak” or “diminutive” because you’re a woman in the workplace. Sometimes it’s judging a homeless person on the street as somehow less intelligent, even though perhaps they have a PhD and tons of life experience. The beauty of each person is found in the many mysteries they hold. When we get to know a person, learn their secrets, are audience to their many talents, and regaled by their tales of life, THEN we can see them truly as life-sized.
I know it can happen in an instance, and without even recognizing the thoughts that combine to make those snap judgement calls, but I hope we all (myself included) can remember the “little girls” in the quote and give everyone a shot at being as big, equal or understood as you’d want in return.